Read today’s new post at Stop the Storm:
“I am going to divide and conquer, all right. She ruled my life during all of my formative years, yet she could never completely rule me. This is a war of wills as I continue to empower myself to rule my own body-brain-mind and soul. She trampled where she had no business being. She trampled on me, she trampled me. But she did not conquer me and I aim to prove it.
“March on, oh wounded ones, march on!”
I am in fact reclaiming the soil of my own selfdom! When I am done cleaning my own house, my mother will not be in it.”
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TAKE CARE OF MOTHERS 
This is beautifully said.
“But she did not conquer me and I aim to prove it.”
I believe you are.
I am so glad I found this site. My mom tried to trample me also. What makes it worse or better its hard to tell because I do not know any different is that every time I succeed she takes the credit for herself. She always helps enough to appear to others as being a great mom. Even my own children never realized this even though I warned them until they lived with her. My own siblings think I am the one crazy and mom is and always been “great mom” For the time being now that I am 800 miles away and she does not have my address she has not caused havoc to my life. 40 years old it’s about time huh? lol
GO! Go! Go!
Not sure if you have found my main blog at http://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/ but there I write about my side of the story — and the story, oh the story of our life with these mothers!
Seeing and knowing our OWN truth — not the version of reality that has been fed to us all our lives — is our biggest tool (I won’t say weapon – but yes, that too) toward finding our OWN story as we begin to differentiate it from THEIR story.
THEIR story from conception onward of course powerfully affected us, but we have a right to OUR OWN story — and it sounds like you are well on your way to both living — and being able to tell yours!